The Best Laid Plans

by Megan Stubbs

While many people are gearing up to implement their resolutions this month, I challenge you to set yourself up for a new lifestyle. This is “New Year, New You 2.0.” The idea of the self-made woman is something anyone can achieve. This includes those who are partnered or single as the following key aspects focus on you as an individual and what you wish to strive for during the new year.


You need to be your own champion! Question everything that is posed to you in life and think, “Is this a benefit to me?” Only you know your ins, outs and intricacies, so make sure you are putting forth effort into things that are right and good for you. Rather than seeing your self-advocacy as selfish, remind yourself that others may look to you to help guide them on their own path of self-advocacy. Being the best version of yourself is a solid way to make sure you can be there for them.

The Power of “No”

We women are natural pleasers and it can be difficult for us to utter this small, two-letter word. But once you are able to grab control of it, you will begin to feel the power of this small declaration. When used properly, saying “no” to things that do not serve you will liberate you to spend time on the things that matter. Your time is precious, so treat it as such.

Speaking Up Sexually

Have you heard the saying, “Closed mouths don’t get fed?” This adage translates into the sexual realm as well. We are now living in an age where women are becoming empowered to speak up about their sexuality, and that is wonderful! You have the right to trust in your own sexual values, set sexual limits and be assertive about sex! You are in charge of your body and what you do with and for it.

Goal Setting

Creating goals gives you a sense of purpose and can begin to lay a path toward achieving them. By writing down goals, you are able to visualize them and have a tangible reminder whenever you need inspiration. By taking control of your future, you can make better use of your time and become more positive about the life you are living. Find out what is most important to you and work your way there! Don’t forget to enjoy the journey along the way!

Mindfulness and Spirituality

While you are making plans, speaking up, goal smashing and advocating, don’t forget to take time for reflection. Work hard, play hard and rest hard by making the time to do whatever you need to do to find inner peace, because burnout is a very real and serious thing that can throw you off track when working towards your best self.

Acknowledging your current state and taking stock of your feelings is beneficial to a balanced life. Through reflection, we are often able to see where we had barriers in our past and what steps were helpful in resolving them. And if things have been particularly great, it is nice to bask in the peace of a success.

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Sexologist, the job you never saw on career day. For insightful tips or a good laugh, find her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and




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