by Megan Stubbs
Have you ever been post-date, ready to get feisty, and thought to yourself, “Ugh, why did I eat that last breadstick?” as your insides gurgle in protest? Now imagine that feeling after Thanksgiving, which is almost always compounded by the grandmother guilt. Much like Hansel and Gretel, she, or some other caring family member, wants to stuff you full of food and drinks on this night of plenty. You can’t tell her no, so of course you had an extra scoop of mashed potatoes, and a second slice of pie. Belly distended, you bid farewell to your family and seek the comfort of your bedroom cave ready for hibernation. Sex is totally off the table.
What if you wanted to enjoy your meal and save room for a special kind of dessert? This holiday season, don’t let the prospect of grandma’s generous portions and the top button on your pants get in the way of your desire for intimacy. Stress levels can run very high during this time of year and there is no better way to de-stress and relax than intimate time with your partner. Here are some of my tips on how to play it smart during the seasonal feast.
Watch the Wine
Alcohol is a depressant and contrary to popular belief, it is not an aphrodisiac. Sipping on a cocktail or two through the night is fine, but if Uncle Johnny shows up with the bottle of Fireball offering shots, politely decline. Excessive drinking can actually inhibit your ability to remain aroused and/or reach orgasm. Nerve endings become dull and can stymie sensation.
I think we have all heard that eating turkey makes us sleepy. Often, the amino acid tryptophan is attributed to our post dinner yawns; but while tryptophan is important in the production of melatonin, it is actually all the carbs that make us crave a nap. The culprits include rolls, potatoes, stuffing, yams, pies and alcohol. This isn’t to say that you can’t eat these delights, but just don’t overload.
Pumpkin might be the real MVP during your Thanksgiving dinner. Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Center in Chicago found that the scent of pumpkin was a powerful stimulant and responsible for an increase in men’s desire. Their research also found that combined with the scent of lavender, penile blood flow increased in about 40 percent of the participants. In your post dinner goodbyes, maybe you should ask for a pumpkin pie slice to go?
Here are the real tips about being intimate while managing the tiny feast that now resides in your stomach. You shouldn’t approach this coupling like a regular one. Consider alternative activities like kissing or cuddling to satisfy your urge to be intimate. This will help alleviate some of the pressure to perform. If sex is still the end goal, be mindful of your position. I don’t think there is any amount of sexual stimulation that can counteract physical discomfort, so try more relaxing positions such as side-by-side (no one wants to feel their dinner being rhythmically jostled!). This is a great opportunity for some slow love making. Look in each other’s eyes and be present. While any of these activities are going on, don’t forget the most important rule…
The Secret Ingredient
Have a good sense of humor. You and your partner have stuffed yourselves admittedly more than normal, so don’t be surprised if there are some out of the ordinary happenings. Feel free to laugh and take it all in stride. Intimacy should be fun, and bodily functions happen because we are human.
If you’re looking forward to trotting to the bedroom with your partner after Thanksgiving, watch what you eat, definitely bring the pumpkin, and most importantly have fun!